When I heard that Rev Run (Yes, that Rev Run of RUN:DMC) was going to be on stage at Orange, I thought two things:
1.My friends at Orange are brilliant to kick a bit of the ol’ school flava at Orange.
2.Really? How’s this gonna go over? I was skeptical.
Then I heard his interview with Reggie, and all my skepticism faded away. He wrote a book on parenting. No, really, he did. And I can’t wait to read it.
The fact is, the Reverend Run had some excellent wisdom to share on parenting and marriage. He said:
“I put more emphasis on my marriage than I put into my kids. My kids are second. If they top two players on the team aren’t connected, you’re gonna have problems running the plays.”
As married couples with kids, we’re told this all of the time. However, when push comes to shove the fact is our kids usually end up coming first. No offense, but they’re needy. They need food, shelter, clothing, rides to practice—oh the list that goes on indefinitely! We spend so much time making sure they are safe and OK, that we come to the day having spent most of our relational energy as well.
Our spouses get whatever is left.
We all need the reminder why putting each other first is so important. If we’re not together on life, there’s no way we’re going to be together on anything related to parenting our children. If we’re not strong for each other, how could we ever expect to be strong for our kids?
I have a feeling we default to our children because it’s easier. They do legitimately need us. And those cute faces, how could you resist those cute faces?
But Jenna and I are the team captains. If we’re not on the same page, our family will never move forward. If we’re not modeling our faith, our kids will have less of a chance of connecting with Jesus. If we’re not a stable force of love in their life, where will they turn to find it?
I write that. I believe that. But when it comes down to living that out…. well, we’ve got some work to do. Most of us in ministry do. I guess that’s why I write this. You and I need to work harder at our marriages and families. We can’t just coast anymore. Too much is at stake.
So this is out on the blogosphere now. I guess that means I actually have to do something about it.
Let’s hear it! What are your strategies for keeping your marriage fresh and vibrant?
Share them in the comments below.